Annabell's story

What Happened:
I had only just started high school and was still trying to figure out what it was that I wanted from life when I met him. He was not like any other guy I'd met. He was cute, great body and had that bad boy thing that makes you melt. He was my first love and I would spend all my spare time with him, I stopped seeing my friends and family, my school grades dropped. I was constantly lying to my parents about who I was with so I could see him all of the time and then occasionally my friends would see me too. I didn't realize at first the danger I was in. He had a bad reputation and I couldn't have any male friends without him freaking at me. After going out for about two months we started arguing lots because I didn't want to have sex with him. We had a really big argument and he hit me! I had fractured ribs, lots of bruising and a sore heart. Despite this I still stayed with him, he bashed a friend of mine, and sexually abused me.

How I coped:
I didn't know what to do! I lost all of my self confidence and was shut off from my friends. I couldn't tell my parents and I resorted to drugs. Finaly after a suicide attempt my best friends got serious with me and told me what I was going through was wrong and I shouldn't blame myself! I didn't believe them but a few weeks later I dumped him!

How the situation changed:
He spread rumours about me, some believeable, some so stupid no one would think twice, he prank-called me and threatened my family, but eventually things died down.

What helped me to get stronger:
I can't thank my friends enough! they were great!! I still hate to talk about it, but it helped to share it with a friend so I thought someone knew my problems. It's been two and a half years now and I am doing FANTASTIC!! I still have my down days but I'll get there!

What I would say to someone who is being abused:
Think about it! What right do they have to make you suffer? And what ever is happening is not your fault, don't ever think it is! Abuse is serious and harmful. Don't put up with it! Do what you can to make it stop! There are people who care and want to help so give them a chance, and don't loose hope. And don't think your crazy, or stupid because you let it happen, you didn't ask for it, so don't blame yourself!