Christy's Story

 
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What Happened:

I was in my mid-teens when I had this boyfriend who was then in his twenties. At first he treated me very well that I think I am the happiest in the world. Things did not last long. He started to treat me bad like forcing me to have sex with him although I said 'no' to him. Finally, he got what he want and I felt like I was being raped by a guy whom I called 'love'.
He didn't like me talking to other guys in my school. Then I met this guy who is a few years older than me in school. I was scared if my boyfriend found out about him. So, I kept avoiding that guy. But one day the guy came towards me and ask me what's been happening and I told him everything. I was like more comfortable after talking to him.
And then, my boyfriend found out about our friendship, so he asked me alot about it. He even got some information about that guy from his friends. Next, he phoned that guy and asked him not to bother me again. Then I knew no one can save me again. I dare not talk to my parents or friends. My friends, day by day I was losing them, one by one. I feel very lonely that time. I was scared of what he'd do if I left him.

How I coped:

Then, I told my brother everything about my boyfriend. He asked me to leave him if I don't want things to get worse. But I knew I couldn't leave him. I'm scared.
Then my brother talked to my boyfriend. After that time, he didn't bother me again. But later on, he disturb me again. And by that time, the guy at my school warned him not bother me again.

How the situation changed:

Then my boyfriend admitted he was wrong. And promised not to bother me again. My social life is better and I made more friends than before.

What helped me to get stronger:

My friend and my brother.

What I would say to someone who is being abused:

Don't be afraid of them. Tell someone who can help you. My suggestion is tell your family members. They won't be mad at you because you are their child. Be brave. Don't delay the problem you are facing.

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