Thinking Sheet: questions to think about
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Questions to think about:

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  • What does your boyfriend/girlfriend gain through their behaviour?
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  • How has the abuse made you feel?

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  • How does or has the abuse affected you - how has it affected your confidence, your relationships, and your life in general?

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  • How have the negative messages that your boyfriend/girlfriend has given you made you feel about yourself?

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  • How have you been able to not let the abuse overwhelm you completely?

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  • If you break up:
Good points / what could I gain Bad points / what could I lose?
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  • If you stay in the relationship:
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  • What's your worst fear if you leave?

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  • What's your worst fear if you stay?

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  • Who can you talk to who could help?

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  • What personal strengths do you have to help you keep going?

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  • What are some steps you will take to try to change this situation?

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  • What can you do to feel safer (either in the relationship or after breaking up)

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  • What things can you do for yourself, to feel stronger? (eg: spend more time with my friends, keep a journal, etc) See ideas that may help.

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